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Permanent: Birth control, decisions, disability

Last week I finally had a procedure for permanent birth control. I wanted to write a post about it because it has been something I’ve been wanting for a very long time and has colored my view of my sexuality for many years.
First off, regular readers of my blog will know I was born with a birth defect, Lipomyelomeningocele, and I live with a visible physical disability. My health has been a central reason for not wanting to physically have a baby. I have had 15 surgeries just to be able to live, I have had numerous kidney and bladder surgeries. I am over 20 pounds underweight, as my nerve damage prevents me from properly digesting. I refuse to subject a baby to that kind of risk.
On top of my health, I do not want to have a child for other reasons as well. A family, in the traditional sense, is not something I desire or need out of life. Many people assume that my physical condition is the sole reason I would not want a child and they act perplexed as to why I, as a woman, am not fighti…

Book Review: Exposure, A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment

I love reading books about porn. So it’s no surprise that I had Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals’ book Exposure on my wish list before it was even released. Part memoir, part commentary on issues in both academia and the adult industry, this book is a lovely addition to my porn studies shelf.
The full title is Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment. The book begins with Dr. Tibbals foray into studying the adult industry as she pursued her doctorate in sociology. The author confronts many of the prejudices and “Academic Snubbery” surrounding the study of adult entertainment in the realm of sociology. She relays humorous stories of her first trip into an adult video store and mishaps at adult entertainment expo booths. Her journey from automatically despising and dismissing porn to examining and embracing aspects of the adult industry is quite relatable. The author’s account of early experiences with porn (most notably being incredibly offended by an unfortunate inc…

Book Review: Sexy Ways to Play

First off, this book comes with a sex toy so if that doesn’t serve to pique your interest, I’m not sure what else this sex blogger can do for you.
That being said, I actually didn’t know the book came with a sex toy when I ordered it so when it came in the mail, I was slightly concerned it was a bomb, but more on that in my video version of this review at the bottom of the post.
Sexy Ways to Play by Emily Dubberley is a playful pack that comes with a 96 page book and a set of Ben Wa balls. The book is subtitled “A Guide to Sex Toys” and is quite a nice one at that.
Though small, the book has a beautiful layout with elegant photos at the chapter breaks. The sleek design adds sophistication to the very professional explanation of different types of sex toys and ideas of what you can do with them.
The core of the book explains fifteen different toys. Each toy is explained in one page with a short list of pros and cons at the bottom. I find this makes each toy easy to find and doesn’t overwhe…

Book Review: Forbidden Fruit: Stories of Unwise Lesbian Desire

Forbidden Fruit: Stories of Unwise Lesbian Desire is a collection of 17 erotica stories edited by Cheyenne Blue. The book was published in 2015 by LadyLit Publishing.
Overall, I found this to be a solid collection that featured a wide range of stories that hinged on the theme of taboo desire in playful and surprising ways. The book opens with a wonderful futuristic dystopian tale followed by a wide array of situations: historical pieces, contemporary work, age differences, power dynamics, religious transgressions, and one case of this isn’t quite cheating, is it?
There are horse thieves and modern outlaws. A head coach and an artist and an old fling. An old fling’s daughter. An old fling’s mother. My, oh my.
My favorite story in the collection is by Laila Blake and is entitled The Law of Reciprocity. It is a mystical tale involving a servant Hannah and her Mistress, Lady Rose. The tension and texture of the story was divine.
A few stories were a bit hard to believe, the turn of events a …

Book Review: Damaged Goods, New Perspectives on Christian Purity

My foray into books at the crossroads of sexuality and Christianity have for the most part been bleak, but Dianna E. Anderson’s Damaged Goods is a ray of cheer on this sex blogger’s docket.
The full title, Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity relays the break the author makes from traditional purity movements. Instead of meeting premarital sex, gender fluidity, and short skirts with STOP IT NOW OR ELSE, Anderson braces sexuality ethics with far-reaching and textured concepts that include individual rights, consent, and a wider range of choices that can coincide with Christian beliefs.
The book’s narration trades off between a memoir-like tone and a more academic slant. There are times where the author brings the audience in with her own experiences growing up in the Christian purity culture, and the impact it had on her experience with virginity and sexual orientation. Other times she explores history and theories from other sociological and theological concepts to dissec…