Wednesday, May 24, 2017

New release! Booked: A BDSM Romance


I am so excited to announce the release of my contemporary BDSM Romance that features librarians, detective role play, and a focus on the psychology behind power exchange and kink. I put a lot of things that are really important to me as a writer into my fiction and this book features a bisexual character, a character with nerve damage, and the characters all come to a place where they can embrace and celebrate their kinks (even if it is difficult at first.) It is a happily ever after standalone title with a M/M romantic/erotic/bdsm pairing and a M/F kink pairing. 

The book is available as an ebook as well as in print.

You can click here to read a guest blog post I wrote that explains more of my motivations in writing a bisexual main character and how my experience living with nerve damage shaped the life of one of my characters. Below is a synopsis of the book. If you like M/M pairings, bondage, librarians, detectives, role play, and philosophy behind BDSM then please do check out this title! I had so much fun writing it!

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Nate Fuller looks like a typical artist: Part-time novelist, part-time bartender, and dedicated volunteer at the public library. But beneath the surface, Nate keeps many secrets. Nerve damage has left him without feeling in most of his body. He has a thing for being tied up. And the interlibrary loan librarian Charlotte is his BDSM Domme.

Between his body and his kinks, Nate has always had a difficult time with romance. But when he meets the new assistant library director James Albright, things in that department quickly heat up. Unfortunately, James has never been exposed to BDSM beyond the erotica section and Nate has always been more comfortable lying about his body and his sexuality. But James has a secret of his own and clues begin to appear behind the detective crime novels he reads every night.

Armed with handcuffs and a thrill for the chase, Nate sets out to uncover their dream power dynamic – and true love.


Monday, May 1, 2017

Book Release: Cast From the Earth


My Old West Zombie Apocalypse Polyamorous Romance, Cast From the Earth is now available in print and ebook! This standalone HEA title is full of erotic romance, edgy horror, and fluff... because I couldn't resist! Below is the summary and some videos I made talking about the book and my inspiration behind writing it. I included a lot of things that are really important to me as a writer: disabled characters, polyamory, and erotic romance.

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An epidemic that turns men into monsters has seized the nation. At first the disease only spreads in cities but soon cannibals are roaming the prairie, threatening the quiet little towns of the late 19th Century heartland.

At an isolated poor farm in rural America, Sara Warren has survived a tumultuous life of loss and an accident that leaves her with one leg – but she is hopeless of any other future until a woman named Cordelia arrives at the farm and changes Sara's life forever.

Along with Dan, a man who can't hear and Grace, a young woman who is more concerned with her sewing needles than people, they face the oncoming apocalypse with their wits and their bare hands. When it seems like all is lost, a man from Sara's past named Jack returns to her life and they all realize the only way to survive is together.

A story of romance, violence, sex, and the wild prairie that proves broken bodies still feel pleasure and broken souls can find love – even at the end of the world.




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Monday, April 17, 2017

Podcast interview with TantraPunk



I had an amazing time last week recording a podcast episode with TantraPunk where we discussed so many important things like sex and disability, porn, fetishes, and the really complicated place where all those things come together. We really just scratched the surface of these topics, but I was so happy to connect in a conversation that treated these topics with respect and aimed to shed light on an often overlooked or ridiculed topic. 

I was also so excited to share my story about how I became a sex writer and shared some of my work.

You can listen to the episode here.

Check out TantraPunk's website, and click here for a list of recent podcast episodes -- they are fantastic!

Follow TantraPunk on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tantrapunk
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tantra_punk/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tantrapunx/


Monday, March 20, 2017

Why I've always wanted to write for a porn magazine


My erotica was featured in Issue 4 of Math Magazine. Read more about my experience and why I have always wanted to write for a porn magazine by clicking here.






#allthegazes


#loveandbutts






Monday, March 13, 2017

Interview with visual artist Rachael Griffin

Several months ago, I was delighted and honored to meet Rachael Griffin, a visual artist whose work tackles the wonderfully sensual and textured themes of appetite, craving, and where these desires come from.

Of course, with the very suggestive images of popsicles, corn dogs, and delicious, dripping pies, our conversation quickly turned to sexual appetites and the way our bodies and identities play a role in shaping these appetites. And while I couldn't save our hours long conversation in a jar for you to listen in, I can at least give you a little taste.

Rachael was kind enough to answer some questions about her work and her philosophy and I'm thrilled to bring this intersection of art, sex, and philosophy to my readers here at The Unlaced Librarian. I hope you enjoy, and please do check out Rachael's website for more information on her work.

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Unlaced Librarian: Thank you so much for participating in this interview. Please tell readers a little about yourself and your work.

Rachael Griffin: I am interested in appetites.  We all have our own individual and unique appetites, but at the same time we share them with others.  You can have an appetite – a craving – a certain taste – for anything.  You can have a taste for leather, for art, for a certain type of human being even.  But where do these tastes come from?  I am especially interested in why we like the things we like, and why we do the things we do – is it a matter of nature or nurture?  I am curious about where our instincts and cultural constructions originate, and where they sometimes collide or blur.  My work is most inspired by the sensual appetite. I am interested in how our brain makes associations and what they mean.  I seek to evoke some type of sensation or memory through my imagery.  While memory and senses are closely entwined, they have the potential to make us feel a certain way and reveal a little about ourselves that we may not be entirely conscious of or in tune with.  They bring about these appetites or tastes that we are constantly operating by, however knowingly or mindlessly it may be.

UL: When I met you, you were painting a huge, succulent pie and had painted a half-consumed corn dog. Can you comment on the sexual imagery in your work?

RG: While my work has always involved the human drive, the imagery hasn't always been as directly sexual as it is now.  This change took a turn about 3 years ago, when I began focusing on the object as subject.  Instead of creating a narrative about what I was getting at (at the time, our animalistic tendency to eat meat, which was a conflicting personal conversation that had become very loud to me), I decided to simply draw the thing that I was talking about.  So I created a 12 and a half foot long strip of bacon.  Next came the walnut that I had been seeing a lot in my daily life, in which I began to notice all these beautiful little veins.  By coincidence, this walnut took on a yonic quality, and from this point on everything was a vagina or penis or some other sexual incarnation.  While these comparisons amuse me, they also get me thinking about children and our mere existence and the meaning of life, dark scary places in my brain where I can't find an answer.
From here I continued to work with food as my subject, from fruit to meat to pastries and their insides.  These foods are so grotesque and wet and fleshy and body-like.  The colors I see in them remind me of the blues and greens and purples that are in our skin.  I see organs and life and guilt and pleasure.  It's fascinating to see what kind of dialogue emerges from the work, and how others perceive it.  The work began to say just as much about the viewer: their level of interest in sexuality, in gender studies, the body, their political views, their pleasures and desires, their subconscious, nostalgic memories.  And yet there's another layer to these "sexual" images.  I became very curious about why we see things the way they do; why they make us feel the way we do.  Is it the color?  The shiny, wet-like surface?  Is it the iconography?  This newly surfaced mediation circles back to the question I'm constantly asking, as mentioned above – why do we think the things we think, and what part of it is nature vs. nurture?

UL: We had an amazing conversation about sexuality, society, and gender. Do you think art can help people learn about their sexual identities?

RG: Absolutely!  Art can help you see things you've never recognized or imagined before.  Whether it's visual art, performance, literature, music, these are all very moving devices.  They offer possible channels for perceiving and interpreting.  Sexuality is an odd thing.  Sometimes it's bursting at the seams, sometimes it likes to lay low, and sometimes it's complicated.  Identity is an odd thing.  You can be anything.  Everybody is so different, and the more we recognize these differences and celebrate them, the better chance we have to be true to ourselves and do what feels best for us at that time.  The hedonist in me wants everyone to feel their fullest, to acknowledge every corner of their being and find comfort in it.  I can personally affirm that various forms of art have undoubtedly opened my mind and inspired me throughout my life, always with room to grow, always learning more about myself along the way.

UL: Do you have any favorite books or websites about art or theory you can share with us?

RG: One of the books I've most recently fallen in love with is 
A Philosophical Inquiry into the Origin of Our Ideas of the Sublime and Beautiful by Edmund Burke.  
There are several versions out there, but a few can be accessed online at the following links:


Burke offers theories for why human beings may have a preference, or taste, for certain things.  The generalizations are deeply interesting and a bit humorous, perhaps having something to do with the fact that it was originally published in 1757.  "Part IV, Section XXII: Sweetness Relaxing" is especially lovely.
Lynda Barry is an amazing artist and writer who opened my eyes to the veins in the tiles on my bathroom wall, which appeared again in the walnut I talked about earlier.  This way of seeing evolved through a daily diary exercise in which we wrote 10 things that we saw that day.  Suddenly I was seeing things in my daily routine that I had never noticed before.  The world quadrupled in size, texture, color, and indulgence.  Everything was much more vibrant, and I was much more present.  Lynda does a lot of amazing work, throughout her daily life, research, and practice.  I would highly recommend her books "What It Is" or "Picture This," especially if you're an artist or writer.
Also, anything Judith Butler. "Gender Trouble" and "Bodies That Matter" are great reads.

UL: Thank you again for sharing your work and some of your philosophy on sexuality and identity. Readers are encouraged to check out Rachael on her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachael_griff/



Monday, February 13, 2017

Erotica collection: Sacred and Profane, Priest Erotic Romance


A few weeks ago, I posted about the release of a new collection of erotica “Sacred and Profane: Priest Erotic Romance” (Sexy Little Pages, 2017) and brought readers an interview with the collection’s editor, Torrance SenĂ©.

I was finally able to indulge in all the exciting, sensual, and deliciously blasphemous stories for myself, and I must say that I’m honored my work is included alongside such intriguing and erotic stories.


There are ten stories in this collection. At 243 pages, this is a hearty read. Each story is longer length, with vibrant worlds and real characters. Each story has a strong theme and great chemistry between characters. As with any collection, there were a couple stories that I didn’t love, but overall the collection was engaging and, well, hot. My favorite story was “Absolution” by Charlotte French. This story used supernatural elements while still staying grounded in the conflicts of reality. I could see the characters crisp in my mind and the story was mysterious and satisfying.


This collection is erotic romance, so all the stories have a romantic bent in which the characters have a textured relationship develop in the story along with the sexual encounter or erotic scene. Some stories include kink (mine does!) and some of the priests and pastors leave the profession because of the events in the stories. Some slip around the rules so they don’t quite break their vows. Some stories are fairly straightforward romance while a couple push the theme to a creative edge.


My story is called “Shelter” and involves Morgan, a kink-tastic lady who rather likes to ruffle tradition, especially when it comes to the Pastor of the First Christian Church, John Buchanan. I included a lot of elements in this story that were important to me: a visibly disabled character, negotiation around kink and consent, as well as a spirituality that ultimately unites rather than divides. I am very proud of this story and am thrilled the story found such a brilliant home.


Since writing “Shelter,” another story of mine involving a priest, kink, and blasphemy has been picked up by another publication. So if you have a hot spot for this theme, stay tuned for more from me in that department!


I hope readers enjoy this spicy-sweet collection. Whether you love the sensual tango of religion and sexual expression or are just looking for a new take on erotic romance, give this book a peek. I’m certain you won’t regret it.

Monday, January 30, 2017

Book Review: Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us

If you are a constant reader of the Unlaced Librarian, you already know very well that I am a pervert. Lucky for me, I found a book that argues: so are you.


“Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us” (Scientific American / Farrar, Straus and Giroux) is a 2014 book by Jesse Bering that pries apart the elements of sexual expression – from the mundane to the taboo.


As an award-winning columnist and psychologist, Bering delivers a book packed with information that is also fun to read. Furthermore, he gives readers that might be struggling with some aspect of sexuality a very valuable resource for having an open and fair discussion about sex.


By dissecting historical attitudes about sex, developments in psychology and clinical diagnosis, as well as a vast range of paraphilias and fetishes, the author takes particular details to paint a picture about what makes people tick when it comes to sex and arousal. I’m happy to say I picked a few missing puzzle pieces of my own picture from this work.


I was in love with this book within the first few pages. The author has a strong narrative voice that pops with wit and humor. The author begins the book with sharing several personal aspects of his own sexuality and some may take the humor as a sort of shield against vulnerability because of this. But after delving deeper into the work, it is clear that the author is writing from a perspective of security and genuine humanity for the topic at hand.


The humor is used through the entire book, which makes sections heavy on tests and measurements more engaging to read and also explains certain topics in a way that is down to earth and accessible. But the author also knows when to show compassion, respect, and reverence for certain severe topics. I felt the book was successful in conducting a mature conversation about so many taboo topics because of this balance.


Typically when I read a great sexuality book, I always lament that I wish I had read the book sooner. Not the case with this book. I’m an open minded person, but there were things discussed in this book that have made me pause in the past – a nameless, guttural emotion that stopped me from reading further because I hadn’t been exposed to enough information, or I was being confronted with something I didn’t want to think about. Sometimes, even, a defensiveness was my barricade – I’ve only recently come to terms with and come out about the fact that I am a fetishist (male fetishists vastly outnumber female fetishists, and as a female fetishist, this book did worlds to answer a lot of my questions.) None of this is the author’s fault of course – I think Bering writes effectively about these topics. I just know that a lot of people, myself included, might not be in a place to let that writing in. For that, I am glad this book found me after I had worked through some of my own attitudes and feelings.


That being said, I think the author does an excellent job at constructing the discussion around not just taboo topics, but topics that generate a lot of fear and outright hatred. Indeed, he is willing to shine a light on topics that many don’t want to even acknowledge and I learned a lot about sexuality, research, and history from this book. I was exposed to information about the psychologists, sexologists, and other people behind research on controversial topics that I would not have found elsewhere. I think this makes me a better sex educator and gives me a foundation for further research, especially as I delve forward into my research about sexual fetishes.


Some of the chapters are tamer than others. I found the sections about hyper sexuality and hysteria fairly par for the course. But the chapters about paraphilias, sexual imprinting, and erotic age orientation were fascinating, engaging, and taught me the most in my personal reading of the book.


It is worth noting the first chapter of the book is titled, “We’re  All Perverts.” While the book does focus on people who have historically been labeled “Deviants,” or “Perverts” (the author refers to us as “sexual outliers”) this is done in a way that is not shunning or exclusionary. The author aims to understand the multitudinous factors that are at work in building our sexual fingerprints, what makes all of us sexual beings. A core assertion of the book is that too many people still live in fear and shame for simply having certain sexual fingerprints. I was one of those people, and reading this book helped me to feel more comfortable in my own head and in my own skin.


Obviously, this book was very valuable to me and it has a permanent home in my collection as one of my favorite sexuality books. I would venture to say that some general readers might not enjoy the book as much as I did because of the topics discussed. But I also venture to say that some general readers have secrets of their own that this work could very well serve to untangle, even if they never share them beyond the pages of this book. On top of that, there’s a lot of history and psychological theories that will likely engage readers from a variety of backgrounds in psychology and sociology.


If you are curious and willing to remain calm in a sea of stigmatized sexuality, definitely give this book a look. I say remain calm, because at any given shift in narration, the person you begin reading about might very well be yourself.