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This year has gone by fast. For me, this spring and summer has been a warm welcome back to life. I’ve emerged from a period of time that I will look back on as being one of the worst years of my life.
I’m not trying to be dramatic when I say that, except for the five days I spent in Los Angeles, there was not a single day in 2017 that I felt truly happy. The period of July 2017 through January 2018 is when I finally hit bottom, after a decline that had been taking place for at least a year before.

I won’t go into much detail, but this time in my life was due primarily to a toxic Day Job and a flare up of my health issues. At the beginning of 2018, these became so bad that I was forced to move. I was let go from my Day Job. By some miraculous karma in the Universe, it was the same week a position at a library opened. I was able to return to the work that makes me genuinely happy. And it has given me the ability to properly take care of my health—both my physical and mental health.

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Why I Write Male Pregnancy Romance

After what feels like an eternity of working on my debut male pregnancy romance, Brought Forth is now out in both print and ebook!

I have published the book under a new pen name: Josie Finch. Some people have asked me why I decided to use another pen name. Really, the only reason is that Mpreg is its own genre and it will be easier for readers to find my books.

Along with my sex education work, my writing as Leandra Vane falls into basically two categories: Polyamorous erotic romance and Kinky erotic romance. The books I’m writing under Josie Finch will all be a sweeter romance, have angels and other spiritual figures, and be, obviously, Mpreg.

I’m not ashamed of writing Mpreg romance, nor am I going to treat them as a side project. True enough, the book started as a side project, but now I have launched it and will continue to write in the genre. I’m promoting the books I write as Josie Finch along with all the other books I will continue to write.

But some people might still wond…

New Release! "Brought Forth" Writing as Josie Finch

The Kindle ebook edition of my new romance "Brought Forth" is now available! Print edition is also out now
"Brought Forth" is a M/M sweet romance and a novel length, non-shifter male pregnancy story. I will be writing more Mpreg (male pregnancy) romances as Josie Finch alongside my work as Leandra Vane. 
Read a blurb of my new book below!
Henry Merrill escaped the abusive family from his childhood and has built a life as the kindhearted handyman for the small town of Ashford in the 1880’s. Henry has every intention of living his life alone, serving the town he considers home. But an angel named Cory-Elle has other plans for Henry. With a soul that needs to be brought to earth, Cory-Elle gives Henry the opportunity to raise the family he never imagined he would have.

Dr. Lawrence Turner has a bad reputation in Ashford for attending to poor patients who cannot pay him and for being the only physician the town has ever seen make house calls to the local brothel. So when…

Happy Masturbation Month 2018!

It's MASTURBATION MONTH, lovely readers. I'm so very excited because masturbation is one of my most cherished sexual outlets. Unfortunately, I didn't always have such a good relationship with masturbation. I saw it as something shameful, as something "less" than other sexual outlets, and the subjects of my sexual fantasies often left me confused or once again, ashamed.

Examining sexual fantasy, learning about my body, and understanding more about how erotic media is produced were all processes I had to work through to have a better sex life and to enjoy all my sexual outlets. Which is why I still work to promote great non-fiction sexuality books and sex-ed resources as much as I can.

But for today, I want to offer some further reading for masturbation specifically.

As a person who can think myself off, I rely on sexual fantasy and erotic media like erotica and porn to masturbate and own relatively few sex toys. But that's all right! Part of my message about …

Excerpts from "Cast From the Earth" a polyamorous romance

I had so much fun sharing inspiration photos and excerpts from my novel Booked that I wanted to do one for Cast From the Earth, my polyamorous romance with zombies set in the 1890's. This book features a F/F and M/M/F pairing and lots of fighting... for love ;) Check out some snippets below!

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Dust billowed up as the wagon ambled down a worn dirt road reserved for indigents and invalids. Curled in the back of the wagon clutching her satchel, Cordelia was certain she was neither. She had been offering a perfectly legitimate trade on that street corner back in town. Yet someone still turned her in for begging in public.

Cordelia found herself with no means to pay for a room at the boardinghouse and not a single establishment in White Spring would let her wash dishes or sweep floors for even one day.

Without any further discussion, Cordelia was shoved into the back of a wagon to be hauled off to the Clay County poor farm.

There had been a brief exchange in which the man entrusted with…

Let's Talk About Porn!

I could probably say this about any given week, but there has been another anti-porn wave rolling across my social media, so I decided to consolidate all the offerings I have from The Unlaced Librarian about pornography. I hope some of these resources will help some start or deepen their conversations about porn and the role it plays in their lives and relationships.
Blog Posts
Ways Porn Has Helped My Life
10 Reasons I Include Porn in My Marriage
Pornography: Not just a religious issue
Why I Defend Pornography
Video


In the above video, I discuss how I went from having an anti-porn view to being a pro-porn advocate.


Book Reviews Book reviews I have done here at The Unlaced Librarian that talk about porn.

Coming Out Like a Porn Star edited by Jiz Lee 
Ethical Porn For Dicks by Dr. David Ley
DIY Porn Handbook: a how-to guide to documenting our own sexual revolution by Madison Young
Love and Pornography by Victoria and Garry Prater 

Exposure: A sociologist explores sex, society, and adult entertainm…

5 Frustrating Phrases in the Free Speech Debate

My flame of passion for intellectual freedom has never gone out, but being employed at a library again after an absence has certainly turned up the heat. And there has been a volcanic eruption this week in topics pertaining to censorship and intellectual freedom so I decided I would finally write and share this post that I’ve been meaning to do for some time now.

The following five phrases are ones that people have said to me in various debates around censorship and they are phrases that I’ve seen cycle over and over on social media. I’d like to remind everyone that censorship is an incredibly complex and vast topic and not all my specific examples will fit in every situation, but I’m doing my best to convey why I find these phrasings so frustrating and ultimately short-sighted. I also live and work in the sex positive community, so matters of sexuality and censorship is the area I’ve had the most experience with. If you’re a new reader hello, I’m Leandra, I write about sex and I’m a p…