Mission / F.A.Q.

Mission Statement:

As your friendly (and kinky) Unlaced Librarian, my mission is to promote sex positive conversations and give everyone the resources to have these conversations securely and confidently no matter what your sexual expression might entail. By showcasing erotic fiction and non-fiction books on many aspects of sexuality, I want to eliminate shame with understanding. In reviewing resources and writing fiction and nonfiction, I especially want to shed light on taboo topics such as alternative relationships, disability, pornography, BDSM, fetish, and sexual fantasy. 

Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Are you a real librarian?

A: I am a certified public librarian in my state but I do not currently work in the field. I worked at a public library for three years before life brought a career change. I am still active in the field as I attend and speak at library conferences and use my background in library science to enhance my sex education work to include things like intellectual freedom and information access.

Q: Do you have a disability?

A: I do. I was born with Lipomyelomeningocele. I have nerve damage, a wonky bladder/kidney situation, and walk with leg braces. I explore this perspective in both my fiction and non-fiction writing.

Q: Do you take proposals for book reviews?

A: If you have written a non-fiction book in the realm of sexuality and would be kind enough to provide a review copy, please email me at theunlacedlibrarian@gmail.com

I currently am not looking to review much fiction, but I am open to reviewing short story collections in the genre of erotica, any pairings.

Q: Where do you get the photos for your blog?

A: I take them. Or I am in them and my husband was the one with the camera. So I own all the rights to the photography unless otherwise noted.

Q: What is your sexual orientation?

A: I identify as a lot of things: A fetishist. A sexually fluid bisexual. Kinky. My husband and I share an open relationship. Bring all this together, shaken not stirred ;)


  1. I just want to say thanks for writing and being open about your disability, relationship orientation and sexual lifestyle.. Mostly because I myself follow ethical non monogamy.. And I worry for my daughter who has cerebral palsy and what this will mean for her life.
    I dont ever want her to feel like she is less than as every person is an amazing vessel filled with dreams, hopes and determination.. So, by sharing what you do you open a discussion for people like my daughter and make it safer..
    Go well and blessed be <3

    1. Thank you so much for your comment. I want you to know that your words are genuinely appreciated - I've been struggling lately with my writing and blogging because at times it feels like what I have to say is not relevant to anyone else in the world. Connections like yours are what keeps me going. I wish the very best for you and your daughter.

  2. I'm new to blogger and wanted to follow you, but not sure how I do that. Can you tell me?


    1. Hi! I added a followers widget to the main page so you should be able to click on "join this site" on the right hand side of my blog or enter an email to follow by email. Hope this works and thanks for reading~ LV