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Book Release | Thinking Myself Off: Fetish, Fantasy, and My Erotic Imagination

Well. Here it is.

I know. Most book releases open with a much more enthusiastic and enticing line. And, yes, I am extremely proud of this book. This project is something that I have been wanting to put out in the world for a very long time. In many ways I feel that, as a writer, this book will be one of the most important things I’ve done in my life.

Part of me is also completely panicked and scared to release what I have written. 

But that fear is the reason I wrote this book.

This book is about the role the erotic imagination plays in living a fulfilling life. This book is about erotic media and how we can use it better. This book is the handbook for fetishists I always wished I’d had.

In order to write this book, I had to reveal a lot about myself. Of course, I have boundaries. This isn’t an explicit free-for-all. But I did go out on a limb to share things that I’ve needed other people to share with me through my life, but never had the opportunity, or never met anyone else willing to share.

I hope this book is, above all, helpful to people out there like me. Fetishists. Or people whose sexual fantasies are just as important to them as other needs in their lives. Or people who have felt shame about their erotic media consumption. I hope my work provides insight and practical advice so we might live more authentic lives and have more intimate relationships.

So… here it is. All of it. It’s out there, now. The brave and the vulnerable. I invite you, too, to be brave. To be vulnerable. Let’s see what’s inside.


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