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The Librarian is On Vacation

Hello lovely readers,

If you are seeing this post, then The Unlaced Librarian is on a blog vacation. I was not planning to do this for another few months, but my to-read/to-review pile of books has turned into a mountain that shall only be scaled by taking some time off.

But don't be sad! When I return, I have some truly excellent sexuality books in line for review and I absolutely cannot wait to share them. I will also have some books of my own, and short story collections where my work appears coming out toward the end of 2016 and in 2017! I'm beyond thrilled and excited.

So feel free to peruse past posts from my blog, or check out my YouTube channel where I will continue to post during my blog vacation. I plan to return Monday December 5th with a book review to this blog. Until then, below are some of my absolute favorite, sexy, kinky book reviews. Do check them out.


Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Coming Out Like A Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy edited by Jiz Lee

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality edited by Carol Queen and Lawrence Shimel

Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by Princess Kali

This Thing We Call Sex: A Radically Sensible Look at Sex in America by David Steinberg

Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams 

Sex At Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

And you can read more about my own sexuality book, "Tophy Wife: Sexuality. Disability. Femininity." here.

Finally, if you've ever wanted to know what it's like to write a sex memoir, here's an answer illustrated by GIFS.


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