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Book Review: Women, Sex, Power & Pleasure

Women, Sex, Power & Pleasure: Getting the Life (and Sex) You Want is a wonderful sexuality book by Evelyn Resh (MPH, CNM). The author sent me a copy of this book and I'm so happy to have received such a solid book on women's sexuality.

First of all, I love that this book takes a holistic approach to women's sexuality. The author begins the book with a chapter on six different markers of emotional well-being. This chapter covers things like health-seeking behaviors, creativity, and empathy. I found this alone is an amazing resource and great place to begin with both exploring your sexuality and aiming to have a more fulfilling life.

The rest of the chapters conquer excuses women often use when letting their sexuality fall into a rut. Chapters such as "I'm just too busy," "Honestly, it's all he thinks about," and "Becoming your own activist" give you an idea of the content covered. There are also chapters on menopause, body image, and different phases in life when sex is not a priority such as new motherhood, times of grief, or illness.

The end of each chapter includes a section of "questions to ask yourself" that summarizes the information in the chapter and gives readers a starting point to apply that information to their lives. There is not a resources section but a bibliography at the end of the book lists plenty of places for further investigation.

I found this book was accessible, nicely paced, and packed with practical information. The quotes from women used throughout this book range in age from mid-30's through 90's. This book definitely gives voice to older women that are at times left out of other sexuality books.

The author is a certified sexuality counselor with The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. She is also a certified nurse-midwife who has been in practice for more than 20 years. She writes from the perspective of a bisexual woman who has been in relationships with both men and women. Her wisdom and experience of working with women shines through in the text. Resh knows her stuff, and knows how to bring the information to women who need it.

Overall, I highly recommend this book. I also recommend her other book The Secret Lives of Teen Girls (What Your Mother Wouldn't Talk About but Your Daughter Needs to Know).

Check out the author's website at


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