Monday, March 7, 2016
Book Review: Enough to Make You Blush
"Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation" by Princess Kali is a delightful addition to my kink library and definitely a resource I will be recommending for years to come.
I purchased this book because I am actively adding titles related to BDSM and kink to my arsenal of informative non-fiction. The topic of erotic humiliation can be incorporated into many different types of kink play, but as the author illustrates from firsthand experience and the feedback of several respondents to a survey for the book, erotic humiliation is a taste that is craved on its own merits.
The author identifies as a Dominant and pulls much of her content from her experience working as a professional Dominant. However, Princess Kali does not ignore the needs and views of submissives and I found the outlook was very balanced – however you identify in a power dynamic, you will garner great information and advice from this book.
The author puts an extreme focus on communication and negotiation. Of course this is true for any kind of BDSM play, but as the author points out, much of what makes humiliation play work is journeying into intimate and often emotional psychological places that are going to depend on strong bonds, understanding, and trust. The author offers much guidance in the arena of playing healthy, aftercare, and dealing with things should play go awry.
The author covers a plethora of dimensions related to erotic humiliation. At 18 chapters, this book tackles a range of topics including but not limited to: verbal play, foot fetish, forced feminization (Sissyfication), objectification and dehumanization, masturbation, orgasm control, chastity play, bodily functions, domestic service, punishment, playing in public, and financial domination.
Every chapter is focused and filled with information. The author gives the same insight, passion, and compassion for each chapter and individual topic.
This book is also a delight to read – the author maintained her unique voice throughout and she used humor in a tasteful way that really added a lot to the reading. Her zest and dedication to understanding and sharing this topic is wonderfully clear throughout the book.
I feel this book is a great resource for people who are personally into erotic humiliation and people who are not but are interested in the topic or would like some insights as to why others would enjoy this kind of play.
I will freely admit that some of the topics made me uncomfortable. The author certainly held a magnifying glass to each topic and some of those topics are definite hard limits of mine. But I am grateful to have some solid information relating to these topics and a safe space within the pages of her book to explore these things. Just know if a chapter topic really squicks you out, you don't have to read it. You can skip it and revisit the topic if you need to in the future.
The author also includes a really useful glossary of definitions, some terms she coined herself and others that are widely used in the BDSM community. The book is also rounded out with a negotiation guide, activities list, and suggested online resource recommendations.
Overall I think this is a great book that explains erotic humiliation with wit, wisdom, and a playful verve. More information can be found at http://enoughtomakeyoublush.com