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The Unlaced Librarian is in transit....

Hello everyone and thank you for stopping by! I have no proper post this Monday because I am in the middle of moving. After having most of my stuff in storage and living like a gypsy since the beginning of October, Husband and I finally closed on a lovely house in the middle of nowhere. I like that. Once I get all my books tucked away and my writing desk in order I plan to be back full force. I have a bunch of great books to review and a healthy book haul to add to my YT channel. I also plan to make some major developments to my works in progress including my sexuality memoir "Trophy Wife: Sexuality. Disability. Femininity." as well as a few erotica projects. So thank you once again for reading and sticking with me. I hope everyone is having a safe holiday season filled with books and more than a few sexy thoughts ;) Until next time, I've posted some of my favorite posts below from this blog, and check out the archives for many more. XOXO -LV

Favorite Book Reviews:

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance

Making Peace with Porn: Adult Entertainment and Your Guy

Bottom's Up: Spanking Good Stories

Heaven's Bride: The Unprintable Life of Ida C. Craddock

The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

A few other posts, Body Image, Open Relationships, Porn oh my!

Body Image: On Being Too Thin

Ten Ways an open Relationship Improves my Marriage

Why I Defend Pornography

Disability, Femininity, and Body Identity

You may also check out an interview I did with MFT Heather Brewer, or this off-topic post I wrote about Frank the Bunny on Fourth of July.


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