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Sharing My Sexual Fantasies

Well, hopefully the title of this post got your attention. Not that I mean for it to be particularly shocking. The reason I am writing this post is to lament that sharing sexual fantasies should be considered taboo. I’m currently reading a psychology book that tackles the topic of sexual fantasy and I was sad to read that a high number of people never share any of their sexual fantasies with anyone, including their sexual partners or people they have been in relationships with for decades.

Not that this is an entirely terrible thing. Some fantasies would certainly lose their luster if we ever brought them out into the light of day. But if people aren’t sharing their fantasies because they are ashamed, scared of judgment, or believe they are alone in the subject of their fantasies, well, that is terrible indeed.

So in an effort to contribute to the emerging dialogue of sexual fantasies, here is a roundup of mine. I will likely write on each fantasy topic in more detail in future posts…

Book Review: Disability and Passing, Blurring the Lines of Identity

Ah, passing. This concept exists in many fields of sociology: People of varying races who pass as white, people of varying sexual orientations who pass as straight, and now, people with varying disabilities passing as able bodied. Which is where I come in.

As young as nine I remember actively trying to “pass” as able bodied: I refused to wear shorts or skirts and started wearing socks over my braces. In my teens and twenties I dated people who never asked about my disability and I never brought it up. I would refrain from speaking up in class during conversations about disability, body identity, or illness. Despite the negative impacts certain aspects of passing have had through my life, I now have a more balanced view and find that passing also forms a part of my identity, in a way that is positive. It gives me control over how I present myself and how I share my experiences with others. For all the good and bad, I cannot imagine my life without the concept of passing.

“Disability a…