Most people want to think themselves off in order to have orgasms all the time, randomly, in front of other people who have no idea. On the bus, in the doctor’s office, at work, etc,, etc. Unfortunately, in my experience, things aren’t so easy. I can’t think myself off in front of other people. I have to be alone, or my husband has to be in a deep sleep. I also cannot drum up my mind trick if I’m having sex and it’s just not working. So my advice to people is to begin by yourself, in a comfortable place, with no distractions. You might even venture to keep it a “secret” for awhile, so you don’t have another person constantly asking, “Did it work yet?” Also, strengthening your fantasy skills might help you reach climax more often during sex, but don’t treat “thinking yourself off” as a tool for always having orgasms during sex.
3. Follow your body’s natural sexual response.
Even when I think myself off, my body follows the same sexual pattern: I get aroused then I plateau two or three times. Sometimes I keep the same fantasy, but often I switch fantasies two or three times before climax. Though I’m not moving, my body will be very tense at orgasm so I have to mindfully tell my body to relax. I imagine all my joints are coming unhinged (a tip I read in a magazine once that has been highly effective). My mind trick generally takes about 15 minutes. Learn your own responses. If it takes you longer to climax during sex or masturbation, it will take just as long when thinking yourself off. I find my mind trick works best if I’m laying on my stomach, which in a way mirrors some of my favorite sexual positions.