A human sexuality blog written by Leandra Vane, your friendly (and kinky) Unlaced Librarian. Topics include erotic media, kink, relationship dynamics, disability, and book reviews. Mostly updated Mondays. Mostly.
I must confess that I become quite melancholy this time of year because I dreadfully miss going "back to school." But this time around, I almost felt like I was back in school because I had this book. Mistress Lorelei Powers has such a wonderfully authoritative and insightful voice with just enough snark, charm, and wit. I truly felt as though I were her pupil completing some very important homework as I studied this text.
Though I am involved in BDSM on some levels my interests rest mostly in fetishes rather than power exchange. So I admit that I consumed this book as a reader just as much as I did a sex blogger. And the experience was delightful.
This book is the perfect length and quite reader friendly. There is a lot of information packed into this manual, but it is enjoyable to peruse a second or third time and great to have as a reference.
The first part of the book addresses many concepts and issues in female dominance. What if you are reluctant to take the dominant…
Type “porn” and “marriage” in Google and a myriad of
articles appear fretting about how porn is utterly ruining marriage. A fairly
representative post can be found here. If that one's not scathing enough, read this one. I personally used to have lots of issues
with porn. But now I’m a pro-porn advocate and I
believe people can make porn a healthy part of a balanced sexuality and even,
yes, marriage. Below are ten reasons I intentionally include porn in mine. 1.Strengthen trust with honesty and shared vulnerability
Because we are open about the role porn (and erotica) plays
for us individually and in our marriage, we can tell each other truthfully when
something we see turns us on, when we want to try something we’ve seen, when we
are in the mood to watch something, or any number of other things. We don’t
have to worry about lying or sugar coating the truth about our desires, and
that honesty means we trust each other with the information. And the truth is,
hearing, “Wow, that woman…
I would like to preface the following by saying that this is
not an assertive, serious-toned post with a mic-drop at the end. At the end of
the day, I’m really not passionate one way or the other on if a ‘K’ is added to
the LGBT+ acronym. I’m not even using the full acronym to comment on adding the
K on. However, since I wrote a book about being a fetishist, I admit I did have
some thoughts when an article on the subject of adding kink into the LGBT+
appeared in my radar. So, today I’m sharing some of those thoughts. These are only
my thoughts. Consider what follows a sort of thinking out loud. I’m sure there
are plenty of people more qualified than me who will hash things out.
Especially seeing as the comments section on the above article is
far longer and complicated than the original article. (Though that, perhaps was
the goal.) At any rate. Some of my thoughts. First off, I do consider kink to be my sexual orientation. But
I completely understand how people won’t accept kink as a se…